From hangouts, to late night talks, to movies, to lunch and dinner dates; the past few days have undoubtedly been my best thus far. I was practically glowing, I had better control of my anger and emotions, I was more responsible both home and abroad, I felt this manliness creep up from the inside of me, like it’s been waiting for some sort of activation or something; in a nutshell, I’ve been feeling good. The way she understands me so well, laughs to every of my jokes, makes gestures where and when neccesary, like there’s never a dull moment with her.
“Let’s go to the studio for a photoshoot to celebrate our 2weeks dating anniversary“. Oh!! I didn’t tell y’all we started dating? Sorry!! my bad. Yeah, so we started dating 5days into our friendship; yea yea, that was fast I know but what was there to wait for? Neither of us were in any relationship at the time, we were into each other, liked one another’s company; I mean, what was left? And then she told me about the dream she had the night before we met and how she had asked God to show her a sign before the end of that particular day, and then considering the circumstances surrounding our meeting, she was convinced I was the man for her. So who am I to rewrite what God had written? 🤷♂️ So yes I popped the question, and she said yes; not like I was expecting a different answer though, but then, atleast it’s on record that there was a asking out, and a positive response. So, moving on…
Ofcourse I wasn’t comfortable with the whole studio idea; I mean, is it even neccesary? Like how ridiculous! So if I’m to upload the pictures on any of my social media platforms, what would be the caption?
Happy 2weeks dating anniversary to us… Knowing you for the past 14days has been the sweetest thing ever. Cheers 🥂 to more fruitful days/weeks/months/years of dating ❤️❤️❤️
Gosh!! I hated the whole idea, but you know that thing about being in a new relationship, how you’d have to act for the first few weeks that you have sense and/or you’re in agreement with whatever your partner suggests or whatever; Like that torment, that’s what I was going through for the 16th time. But then, love teaches us to make sacrifices for the greater good I suppose; so I dressed up and went to the studio with her. Well, there would also be times that I’d like us to do something that she’s not comfortable with, and I would appreciate if she obliges like I am at the moment; for the greater good. Because a Wiseman once said…
Fall for me I fall for you, nai dog play take De sweet..Warri proverb
So we took whatever means of transport at our disposal to get to the agreed studio; we chose A2 studios situated at no. 20B Okumagba Avenue, Warri Delta state. I got there a bit later than agreed because I got caught up in traffic as it usually was on a Friday evening. On seeing her, she wasn’t looking happy, and when I tried to find out what the problem was, she insisted we talk after the shoot as she didn’t want to ruin the moment. We got into the studio and Mr. A2 did what he does best; like when I saw the raw unedited images, I didn’t regret agreeing to come for the shoot afterall.
As the pictures were being edited, I engaged her in a conversation, trying to find out why she wasn’t very cheerful when I saw her earlier on. She responded thus “I don’t know how long I can continue with this distant relationship thing; I feel the distance might put a strain on our relationship sooner or later”. My jaw dropped like that of a typical yoruba man wanting to exclaim Ah!!!
Ok, so we both reside at opposite extremes of town, but still within Warri and its environs, that it ordinarily would cost as much as N200 – N250 for one party to get to the other. Like in one of my previous relationships, we were in different Geo-political zones of Nigeria, and still found a way to make it work. Yea I know it didn’t work at last but the reason we broke up was nothing relating to the distance thing; which is why I was really surprised to be getting this from her. But then again, it’s a relationship, it’s not meant to be all rosy; moreover, it was ordained by God according to her dream and signs. I found a way to calm her down, talk to her and promised her we would find a way to sort it out eventually. We took our pictures and headed home that evening.
So my question is, how far apart should partners be for one to tag a relationship as distant? Please I need help..