Am I over-reacting? Am I over-stepping my boundaries? Why am I the only one seeing the wrong in this whole visit arrangement? I mean, it’s a different thing if you want to go and spend Christmas with your female friend;🤷♂️ but a guy, and not just any guy but one that has been asking you out? Nah fam! You have not my blessings.
“Babe, I don’t like the fact that you’re trying to cage me or dictate what I should do or not; I’m an adult for crying out loud. Or is it because I told you? I could have as well hidden it from you altogether, or better still lied to you about it and still made the trip to Lagos with or without your knowledge. But I decided to feed you in because I don’t expect you to hide anything from me, no matter how insignificant; and I’m meant to do same as well”.
As infuriated as I was by the idea, I felt she was making some sense. Yes, I appreciate the fact that she’s trying to be really transparent and honest with me; but that still doesn’t justify the fact that her making such a trip for that particular reason was not only a waste of resources, but also not worth it. Now this is not me being jealous, this is me trying to be logical here. Imagine taking the risk of journeying on the highway, or is he booking flight for her? Wait let me ask first.
“Babe, I’m sorry that you’re feeling like I’m caging you, or trying to tell you how to live your life like you’re a kid or something, but I really do not feel comfortable about the idea; not just because he’s a guy or he’s asking you out, but also because of the fact that you’d have to take the risk of traveling on the highway at such a time of the year when the roads are considered to be ‘unsafe’. Or is he booking a return ticket for you”? I asked stylishly. “No he’s not! He’s not even footing the bills for my road trip, or maybe he will eventually, but then I don’t think that’s a big deal”.
Now, in all of these happenings, nothing irritated me more than the fact that Precious whom I expected to be sensible atleast, didn’t see anything wrong with what she was doing. He legit told me to my face that I was being paranoid; that I’m only being jealous and it’s because I know that the ‘Tony guy’ has money more than me. He now wrapped it up by saying “You’re having inferiority complex – don’t ask me what it means, go and check it up in the dictionary“. You can imagine this uncircumcised Philistine calling me names… Saying I’m uneducated, not to know what ‘inferiority complex’ means. This is the same person who has not been able to hold a relationship down for more than 5weeks, coming to tell me this bullshit. Well, it’s not his fault! I was the one who carried my problems to meet him.
Well, for the sake of ‘National peace and security’, I gave my consent; under duress. She asked for money to make her hair as she wanted to look colorful for the visit.
Again, she was asking me if she could go with her bikini and short gowns, as he might want them to go to the beach. I was just saying YES to all her bidding, just so I would be free from the turmoil of her nagging.
Her journey was slated for Sunday the 22nd of December, but as God had it, Hunkle Tony’s messages were no longer delivering as at Saturday morning. She tried reaching him severally throughout the day, but to no avail. So she decided not to make the journey again, but this time, she wasn’t traveling because she didn’t want to, and not because I didn’t consent to it.
You know, God has a very wonderful way of doing things. On the morning of Monday the 23rd, hanty called me to ask what my plans for us were for the Christmas 😂😂😂. Hello ma!!! I have no plans for myself let alone us ma. I actually already arranged to go visit Stephanie; her mum just returned from the US over the weekend, and she’s been asking after me; unless you want to come along…
This is definitely going to be the best Christmas ever, I said to myself 😂. What a time to be alive…